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Office romance: dos and don'ts


 
With more of us working long hours - leaving less time and energy for dating - should we really be surprised when co-workers' eyes meet across the water cooler?
'When people spend eight hours a day, five days a week, together, it's only natural to form close friendships, which can sometimes develop into something more,' says business and personal relationships coach Susan Quilliam.
While many happily married people met at work, office romances need careful handling.
'Office romances can - and do - work out, but some don't or are fraught with problems. A badly handled, messy affair could seriously jeopardise your career, as well as leaving you heartbroken, so take care to go into any relationship with your eyes open,' warns Susan.
If you're already dating someone in the office, here are the dos and don'ts to consider.

Don't: date a co-worker to escape office boredom
You see his name ping into your inbox and get a shiver of excitement. She sits next to you in the meeting and you can forget concentrating on the latest sales figures.
'The thrill of attraction can be exhilarating but if your mind is no longer on the job, take a step back,' advises Susan. 'Could the frisson be a way to liven up a dull work day? 
'If the best thing about coming to work is seeing a particular colleague, could it be you've fallen out of love with your job? Even if the flirtation is mutual, would a relationship between you survive outside of the office? If not, you may need to have a closer look at how you feel about your job - rather than your co-worker.'

Don't: date your boss
Office romances can be a minefield at the best of times - but date someone who is directly above or below you in the chain and you're asking for trouble.
'Rightly or wrongly, questions of impartiality will be raised,' says Corinne Mills, Managing Director of Personal Career Management. 
'Your team mates may suspect you're being given an unfair advantage, while top management will question how you can effectively manage an employee you're romantically involved with.
'There's also the potential of harassment charges. Even if this outcome seems unlikely to you, Human Resources may see a legal landmine in the making. When a relationship ends badly, it's not unheard of for the junior person (often younger and female) to start a sexual harassment case, or suggest the more senior individual abused their position of authority.
'If you're really in love, one of you needs to think about moving to a different department or start looking for another job - and the sooner the better.'

Do: tell your manager
Most office romances start out a secret but not many stay that way.
Corinne says: 'Your private life is your business - and should be kept that way - but there is one person you should consider telling, and that's your boss.
'Ask for a meeting and keep it simple. There's no need to go into detail - just demonstrate your ability to show professionalism regarding the subject. If other workplace relationships have gone bad, reassure your manager that there will be no conflict of interest.'

Don't: fight in front of your co-workers
Want to undermine your professional integrity at work? Playing out your domestic dramas during business hours is a sure way to go about it.
Susan says: 'All couples have disagreements and even full-blown arguments, if handled the right way, can be healthy for a relationship. Unfortunately, those who work together don't have the luxury of escaping one another to cool off.
'If things are getting heated, leave the office for 10 minutes - go for a walk or call a friend (preferably one that's not a colleague). Don't carry on the argument with snippy emails or worse still, out loud. Agree to talk about it when you get home - and make sure you do.'

Don't: snog during corporate functions
If you want to be known for your professional ability, be professional at all times - and that includes at team-building events and corporate functions.
'People are more relaxed on business trips but don't be naïve enough to think that what happens offsite won't be remembered once you're back in the office,' warns Corinne.
'Behave inappropriately and you risk tainting others' perceptions of you. In addition to being the main topic of conversation on Monday morning, you may well have undermined your chances of promotion or be less likely to be recommended for other positions.'

Do: develop an exit strategy
Breaking up is never easy, as they say, but when you work together it can be even tougher - and that's something which shouldn't be underestimated. 
'The end of a relationship isn't something couples think about when they first get together, but when you're dating someone at work, it's a conversation worth having,' says Susan.
'Think about how you will cope seeing each other on a daily basis should you break up. Have you escaped heartbreak in the past by throwing yourself into your work? If so, are you prepared to find another job in order to fully move on?
'Just as business partnerships have an exit strategy, think about how you will handle things when one party wants out of the relationship. If you're serious about each other, it may prove beneficial - for lots of reasons - for one of you to seek employment elsewhere now.'




Evolution of Stars Without Makeup

It was called the 'three-wrinkle rule' — a mythological magazine dictate that all covergirls cover up any signs of aging, save for three lines. That was then; this is now: An age when magazine editors face scrutiny over photo retouching, selfies rule the Internet, and celebrities eagerly line up for their make-up free close-ups. The most recent example is the 2014 Vanity Fair Hollywood Portfolio issue (on stands Feb. 11) featuring 20 stars without make-up or airbrushing. The spread, photographed by painter and photographer Chuck Close, reveals their every line, wrinkle, and blemish. We've come a long way from the tabloid version of the makeup-free photo spread. Now the bare-faced star shot has evolved into a high-fashion stunt and an empowering selfie statement. Let's take a look at how far we've come. -- By Elise Sole


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For the new issue of Vanity Fair, Kate Winslet(along with fellow celebs Scarlett Johansson, Oprah, George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Julia Roberts, and more) were shot by Chuck Close, who used a 20-by-24-inch Polaroid camera for the close-ups. Close set this rule for his subjects: Expect no professional styling or makeup.

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Scarlett Johansson also bared her make-up free face, on Close's order. "I don't do glamour shots, and they're not airbrushed or whatever. So they can be, um … they can be rough. So I need to talk people through it," Close told VanityFair.com. "They have to give up a great deal of vanity in order to do it. And it takes a real act of generosity and faith on the part of the subject to go with it and to give me their image without having any control over what's gonna happen." The images may be stunning, but it's hardly the first time a celebrity has posed unmasked.

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Gawking at stars without a smidge of makeup began with tabloid culture's snarky "Stars Without Makeup!" feature. The obsession to knock them off their pedestals and to prove they were "just like us" soon gave way to the malicious "Best and Worst Beach Bodies," forcing readers to match the cellulite with the celeb.
In 2008, People magazine one-upped the tabloids with its classier, "Stars Without Makeup: Most Beautiful" edition. It featuredDrew Barrymore lounging in bed and wearing a sleep mask, Jessica Biel showcasing her adorable freckles (who knew?), and a then-brunette Jessica Simpson, speaking out about feeling beautiful without cosmetics

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It didn't take long for the fashion world to note the barefaced trend. In April 2009, French ELLE released a multi-covered issue featuring celebrities Eva Herzigova, Sophie Marceau, and Monica Bellucci "sans fards," (French for "without makeup"). Unlike the shock-and-awe approach of tabloids, the magazine celebrated the women's natural beauty as a status symbol. Yet, the idea was still novel and unlikely to take off. Would anyone really buy a magazine with untouched photos?

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One year later, actress Marion Cotillard raised the stakes by appearing on the cover of Italian Vanity Fair with no makeup and wild, un-brushed bedhead.
Yet, in their private lives, celebrities still weren't ready to bare it all. Who could forget when Russell Brand, then-husband to Katy Perry tweeted a photo of the pop star having just woken up? Though no one knows what Perry thought at the time, Brand swiftly removed the photo soon after it hit news outlets.

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The trend gained steam in 2011 when a black-and-white photo of Lady Gaga covered the October issue of Harper's Bazaar with the coverline "Lady Gaga Bares All." In the accompanying article, she asked, "Don't you think that what's on the cover of a magazine is quite artificial?"

stars without makeup beyonce instagram
This January, Beyonce shared a bedroom selfie on Instagram. In it, the star was tangled in sheets, squinting in the morning light. The photo was one of many bare-faced Bey-shots, which she has openly shared with fans on social media. If you didn't love her already, this kind of photo will make a fan out of anyone. It's honest, humble (sans the brag), and personal for a superstar. Don't think other stars, agents and executives aren't paying attention. No makeup? It's good for the brand.





20 Celebrities who haven't aged a day in over ten years

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Tara Reid, 12 years apart.

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Rashida Jones, 11 years apart.

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Cameron Diaz, 14 years apart.

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Avril Lavigne, 11 years apart.

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Mila Kunis, 10 years apart.

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Sarah Jessica Parker, 9 years apart.

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Naomi Campbell, 18 years apart.

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Gwen Stefani, 13 years apart.

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Helen Bonham Carter, 22 years apart.

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Jared Leto, 14 years apart.

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Jennifer Lopez, 12 years apart.

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Lucy Liu, 11 years apart.

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Halle Berry, 12 years apart.

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Kate Hudson 13 years apart.

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Liv Tyler, 12 years apart.

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Pharrell Williams, 11 years apart.

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Eva Mendes, 10 years apart.

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Jennifer Aniston, 12 years apart.

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Paul Rudd, 11 years apart.

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Will Smith, 19 years apart.

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